Portland Family Law And Estate Planning Blog

The emotional trauma you feel during a divorce is normal. After all, you are saying goodbye to one of the most important relationships in your life. Still, this isn't a time to focus on the negative aspects of the situation. Instead, adopting a positive mindset can help you remain strong and get what you need from the split.

One area to ficus your efforts is the property division process. When you and your ex are negotiating this facet of the divorce, you need to make sure that you aren't settling for less than what you are due. Sometimes, people accept settlements that aren't in their best interests just because they want to be done with their ex. Never allow this thought to overtake you.

Divorce can be one of them most challenging experiences of your life. No matter how much you may want to be done with your marriage and move on to a new lifestyle, the issues you and your spouse must work through in order to achieve a settlement can prompt intense emotions on both sides and also spark dispute if you happen to disagree on certain matters. Financial issues and those involving child custody tend to be most often prone toward contention.

However, just because you don't see eye-to-eye doesn't necessarily mean you won't be able to amicably resolve your differences and devise a fair and agreeable plan for your post-divorce future. Regarding financial issues, the more you learn ahead of time about state laws, your rights and how the family justice system works, the better.

The end of a marriage is hard on the adults, but it might be even more difficult on the children. This is an upheaval of the only way of life they've known. They might be upset that their parents won't live in the same home. The fear of the unknown might be real for them. One way that you might be able to help them to cope with the situation is to help them learn how to express their feelings in an appropriate manner.

How you have to help your children depends largely upon their maturity and age. You won't have to coach a teen in the same way you do a preschooler. These factors can also have an impact on how affected they are by the split.

When you think of child support, you might only think of the regularly occurring payments that go to your ex to pay for your child's needs. While these are a major chunk of what you will pay, there might be others too. For example, many child support orders require that both parents cover uninsured medical costs for the children.

Uninsured medical costs include co-pays and other expenses that come out-of-pocket for the medical care your children need. In order for you to have to help pay for these expenses, they have to be necessary and reasonable. This means your ex can't decide that your child needs a procedure that isn't really necessary and then demand that you pay for it.