Portland Family Law And Estate Planning Blog

As the parent who pays child support, you might want to know where the money is going. Many individuals find it difficult to hand money over to their ex, even if it is for their children. Unfortunately, there might not be an opportunity for you to find out how your child's other parent is spending the money. We know this is difficult to accept, but don't let it stop you from making payments as ordered by the court.

One thing that many people tend to forget about child support is that it can be co-mingled with the recipient parent's other funds. They don't have to hold the financial support for the child in a different account. They are allowed to use the money for anything that is necessary for the child, which can include utilities, mortgage payments, school costs and other expenses. While it might look like your ex is using the money for self-serving purposes, this likely isn't the case.

When a divorce happens, most people assume that an obvious or common trigger was the reason. Many people get divorced because of infidelity or falling out of love, to name a couple of well-known examples. In these cases, the cause of divorce seems apparent, though that is not always the case.

If you're considering getting a divorce here in Oregon, you may have other reasons for doing so. There are many relationships here in Oregon and elsewhere that break down due to, as experts say, silent killers. These reasons may not be obvious to anyone but the two people in the relationship. Sometimes, one or both people don't realize anything is wrong until the damage is done. Researchers advise people to watch out for the following signs.

When you get married, you assume it will be forever. This is understandable, but you can't be so focused on that point that you make mistakes that can cost you dearly if the marriage does fall apart. If you have a family business, you need to think about what might happen to that if you do go through a divorce. The possibilities might be rather frightening.

There are a few ways that a business can be handled in a divorce. Of course, if you had the business going into the marriage, you may have a prenuptial agreement that outlines what is going to happen. If this is the case, the terms of the agreement will be followed as long as the court doesn't determine that they overly favor one party.

One of the things that many people wonder when they are divorcing is whether they will ever be happy again. You should remember that your broken marriage is likely one of the primary causes of stress and negativity in your life. When you choose to call it quits, you are taking the first step in being able to build a peaceful new life that you can fully enjoy. You aren't having to deal with what might make your ex happy or cranky. You can focus on yourself.

You need to make sure you are giving yourself the best chance at happiness possible by working through the emotional aspect of the split. You might be upset that the marriage ended. You may be sad about all of the things you thought you'd experience during the marriage and know that you won't get to know. The emotional battles that you are facing aren't likely going to go away. In fact, you might feel like you are on a roller coaster with them. Your focus needs to be on how to face them in an appropriate manner, so you can continue to move forward.